When I first came to OU, I was really worried about making friends since I wasn’t local. It seemed to me that most students came here with their best friend. I called my cousin and asked for his advice, and he told me to rush a fraternity, like he had done when he was in college. This, he said, was how he made all of his best friends. I took his advice and rushed.
Rush week consisted of a lot of long days and nights, until I finally got bids and had to decide where I was going to pledge. After choosing who my brothers would be, I started enjoying my time in a frat; parties, free food, you name it. Then they dropped the bill on me out of the blue. Many students struggle paying for college, and I was no different. So, when they told me that I had to pay them nearly one thousand dollars a semester, I was truly conflicted.
I spent my first weeks as a freshman completely committed to my fraternity, and now I had to pay to maintain my friendships. I explained to the treasurer that I was unable to afford to the dues, and they told me something along the lines of “Ah, bro don’t worry about it, you can just work to pay off the dues.” I told them that I couldn’t do that, as I really wanted to keep my grades up and I really need the extra time to study. After this, they completely ghosted me. I tried texting them later in the week and got no response. I quickly realized that without paying, they would refuse to associate with me. So much for brotherhood, right?
Later in the year, I was at campus corner with a friend walking to get dinner, and I passed my former “brothers” walking back from the bars. They started yelling “I know that boy!” I just avoided eye contact, while they laughed, not wanting to get involved with some drunken guys who only wanted me around if I had the cash. To this day, they still refuse to talk to me, I feel like I lost my whole first month at college. I missed out on hanging with my camp crimson group to be with the frat, I missed out on clubs and organizations to be with the frat, and now that I don’t have the money, there is no frat.